Table of Contents
1. I LOVE MYSELF
The biggest step to freedom is to accept and love yourself. Say goodbye to the idea of pleasing everyone. Kick things up, risk not fitting everyone. Granted, it’s not exactly easy. After all, we were trained from an early age to please others. Many people have internalized the idea of not being good enough. “They’re always trying to change and imitate other people who they think are better or more valuable than themselves,” says coach Carola Payer. “They sacrifice their individuality for recognition.” Get ready to stop living the lives of others — live your own.
2. I SAY YES AND NO
Lovingly question your behavior without questioning who you are as a person – this offers the chance to get to the bottom of insidious behavior patterns. “Being self-aware allows you to be proactive rather than unconsciously reactive,” says Coach Carola Payer. Sonja Radatz, systemic coach, advises to say no with calculation: “Be aware in advance of what you need in order to be able to act with pleasure – in personal relationships , at work or in your living environment. Figure out what you like and just try to keep getting more of the good.”
3. I DARE AND TRUST
How often do you refrain from saying or doing something when you really want to? It takes a lot of effort at first, but expressing your true nature takes courage. A great deal of courage! Brave people live passionate lives and forgive themselves when they make mistakes or when things don’t go so well. “Courage is not about being free from fear, but rather about confronting your fears with full awareness,” wrote spiritual teacher Osho. Those who believe and trust in themselves go through this fear and grow.
4. I DETERMINE WHAT IS GOOD FOR ME
Think of familiar phrases like “Only those who make an effort will achieve something” or “Don’t be so selfish”. Dump some of these beliefs out of your subconscious, write them down and check to what extent they actually (still) apply. You may find that life doesn’t always have to be dramatic or troubled, but can flow quite easily. Write down positive affirmations, such as “I make it easy for myself!” or “I don’t have to suffer to be happy.” It feels a little strange at first, but it works.
5. I LIVE WHAT I HAVE
As you write these beliefs, you may find yourself digging out things you thought you couldn’t. For example painting. Did your teacher tell you at school: “You will never become an artist”, or do you hear the sentence your mother said: “Women and logic don’t get along”? The true potential in us is creativity, writes bestselling author Julia Cameron. This creative power can be unfolded in every human being – if they succeed in releasing the blockages of the past that have sunk them up to now.
6. I FIND MY STYLE
Your clothes also underline your personality . Find out what really suits you and don’t hide. Go in search of personal trademarks. Maybe you’ll wear more bright, bright colors from now on. Or you can find a great jewelry designer whose creations reflect your temperament. Feel free to try it out – and have fun with it!
