Pair research from all over the world unanimously confirms the myth that like and like like to associate. This means that the more similarities there are in things, hobbies, values and the origin of the two partners, the more lasting it is for their happiness in love. All studies also agree that commonalities in social class, intelligence and a similar level of education, the same faith, and a similar income class are guarantees of success.
In addition, shared leisure activities, the same preferences and, of course, consensual goals in life weld a couple together and also connect them in the long term.
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differences in a relationship
And what about the opposites? Although opposites are exciting, tingling and attractive at first glance and in the first few months of a relationship, they do not seem to be a recipe for success in the long term. As soon as everyday life enters a relationship, opposites present the partners with considerable challenges and complications.
If, for example, the introvert meets the extrovert, both people will be able to immerse themselves in the life of the other and get enthusiastic about it from the beginning. But soon the introvert will feel out of place outside and long for his own four walls. The extrovert can definitely enjoy the cozy evenings at home, but after a few weeks his nature will take over here too and his urge to mingle with the people will become stronger.
As a result, the understanding and admiration for each other’s qualities and preferences decreases and at some point maybe even just gets on your nerves.
Find the right partner
In principle, people strive for so-called homogamy, i.e. for a counterpart who is as similar as possible to us. David Perrett, British Psychologist , took photos of his test subjects in an experiment and made them more feminine or masculine with the help of a computer program for image processing. He then presented his subjects with different photos of people of the opposite sex and had them choose which person they felt attracted to. Everyone was attracted to their own changed image. This and other experiments suggest that when it comes to choosing a partner, we are attracted to people who are genetically and personally similar to us.
Tatjana Strobel provides suitable reading on the subject, who explains in her book “I know who suits you” how we find happiness in our relationships without detours.
Tatjana Strobel, who is regarded as an expert in understanding human nature, explains to us that it is important to get to know and assess yourself. She shows us how our uniqueness makes us desirable, how to flirt properly and who really suits us in the end. She takes us on an exciting journey through the adventure of relationships. Perfect for singles who are looking for an entertaining guide that accompanies them into a happy partnership.
